Women's voices have long figured prominently in the publishing sub-category of marriage memoirs, so for the sake of fairness and balance, it was nice to find one written by a man.
Unlike marriage chronicles written in recent decades, Jay Ponteri's Wedlocked does not pander to a culture more enamored with life after marriage than the reasons why marriage is so hard, and how it can -- if it can -- actually work. But it does share their premise: The choice of whom to marry is an unbelievably big decision. At twenty, twenty-five, men and women are, depending on how they were brought up, pressured to decide for the rest of their life, at a time when they are bereft of reason. They need to be impartial about the object of their love, when love prejudices them in their lover's favor. Unfortunately, such is the cockeyed nature of things that many marrying people get into this predicament. And it usually ends the same way.
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